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“Don’t you know yet? It is your Light that lights the world.” – Rumi
ME FIRST is a bold reframe of the idea of selfishness—not as something shameful, but as a necessary act of self-preservation, clarity, and empowerment. It challenges deeply rooted cultural norms that glorify self-sacrifice while encouraging the reader to take back control of their emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.
At the heart of the book is a powerful message: you matter too. And if you don’t prioritise yourself, nobody else will.
The Core Idea
“We were raised on a diet of being good to others. But were we ever taught to be good to ourselves?”
The book shines a light on how many of us have been conditioned to give endlessly—to family, friends, partners, work—often at the cost of our own health, peace, and identity.
“I had to make myself a priority. I had to make myself the most important thing. If I had not, I would not be standing here today.” — Oprah Winfrey
This sets us up for disappointment, resentment, and burnout. True transformation begins not in changing others, but in changing the way we treat ourselves.
The Problem with People-Pleasing
“Friendship with oneself is all-important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Many suffer in silence, hoping others will finally notice their efforts or return the love they give. But ME FIRST argues that waiting for this kind of external validation is a trap. Instead, the path to peace lies in giving yourself the care, love, and respect you so freely offer to others.
The Shift: From External Approval to Internal Alignment
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” – Buddha
Being selfish is about becoming aware of your needs. Self-aware. Not self-centred.
The book encourages readers to create space between themselves and their default behaviours—especially the compulsive urge to fix, rescue, or overextend.
This shift involves:
• Saying “no” without guilt.
• Trusting your gut.
• Letting go of relationships that drain you.
• Redefining success based on your values.
Letting Go and Reclaiming Power
“To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” – Oscar Wilde
The book empowers readers to stop outsourcing their happiness or purpose. Instead, it invites them to tune in—to feel their own feelings, honour their intuition, and act from a place of self-respect.
You don’t become better by doing more. You become better by doing more of what matters to you.
Final Thought
ME FIRST isn’t just a mindset—it’s a movement. A reminder that choosing yourself is not only okay—it’s essential.
“When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying ‘no’ to yourself.” — Paulo Coelho
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